REKINDLING THE FIRE (part 1)

I've often wondered why a couple that were supposedly genuinely in love, will get married and years later, the love and affection they had for each other begins to wane. The friendship and intimacy once shared begins to dwindle.💔
It beats me!! But having read some books by prominent relationship experts and done thorough observations, I realized why it's so.
Most couples after marriage, care only about the 'big things' (Having kids, properties, businesses, investments etc) and neglect the 'little things', which as a matter of fact, are the ingredients that spices up love and intimacy.
Since men are logical beings and are naturally wired to focus on only the big things, it's now left for women as emotional beings to utilize these little things to keep our men running back home to us after work. #Winks😉

Dear ladies, marriage is not an end, but a beginning to a purposeful end. Don't relax and say 'Thanks gracious! I'm married. I can now open my fridge and stuff my belly with enough calories'. No!! If your hubby had always admired your slim, flat belly, size ten figure, please strive to maintain it. The gym ain't for men alone please, go with him to the gym and shed some fats. And if on the other hand, he met you plump and fancied you, do well to maintain that plump figure.

**Always Compliment him, 'Honey, that tuxedo looks good on you', 'Baby, you look smashing. I could marry you a million times'. And guess what? Y'll notice his face lighten up obviously perked by your compliment.

**Praise and encourage him, appreciate his little efforts. Do not compare him with any other man, not even your daddy. It hurts his ego.

**Never forget anniversaries, especially his birthday. Surprise him with gifts. Leave love notes in his briefcase, cloth drawers, travel bags etc, telling him how much you love him. Sign your note with a kiss💋 wearing his favorite lipstick, then spray your perfume on it.

**Do not nag, men hate grouch. Much more a grouchy wife. Some women have the habit of talking incessantly, hardly pausing for a breath or allow for a dialogue. Don't do that! 😕
Hold hands when you are together. Pat his shoulder as you pass by him. Smile quickly, laugh aloud. Men like cheerful ladies with great sense of humor.

**Always prepare his favorite meal, especially when he's returning from a long trip. Be present at the Airport or park to pick him, gorgeously dressed. It makes him feel loved and valued. If mental things stimulate him, keep developing yourself intellectually.

**Cook well!! If you dunno how to, learn! It's imperative that you do. Be neat, within and without. RESPECT HIM AND SUBMIT COMPLETELY TO HIM NO MATTER HIS AGE AND SIZE. I wrote these in upper case for emphasis.

Don't always assume he knows what you want or what's on your mind. Men ain't mind readers. Whatever you need, ask him.

**Finally, don't be a 'sit-at-home' wife, get a job, learn a trade or skill. The little financial support you render to him, earns you more respect from him.

Remember that marriage is like a computer, you get out of it what you put into it. The power to make or break your home is in your hands.
These little things really do matter!!! 👌